{"id":1299,"date":"2024-03-04T18:57:08","date_gmt":"2024-03-04T18:57:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/?p=1299"},"modified":"2024-03-04T18:57:08","modified_gmt":"2024-03-04T18:57:08","slug":"my-husbands-christmas-gift-turned-my-life-upside-down","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/?p=1299","title":{"rendered":"My Husband\u2019s Christmas Gift Turned My Life Upside Down"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Lisa is a doctor, and her husband, Nick, is a freelance designer, which makes her the primary breadwinner. But when Nick gave Lisa her Christmas present, it came with more than she bargained for. As a doctor, I\u2019m used to giving advice, but I didn\u2019t think I would need advice about my marriage. Here\u2019s why:I\u2019m the primary breadwinner in our family because I am a doctor with solid hours, and my husband, Nick, is a freelancer who works from home. I control our home expenses because they come from my pocket, whereas Nick covers our son\u2019s football training. MAnd I know that Nick has been stressed out by his work, or lack of stable work \u2014 he has mentioned it many times. It hasn\u2019t been a problem because I\u2019ve worked hard to get where I am, so looking after my family is a blessing. But it doesn\u2019t stop there. Given our financial dynamics, I didn\u2019t expect anything extravagant from Nick this Christmas. But after our Christmas breakfast of pancakes,Ben, our son, wouldn\u2019t wait to dig into his Christmas presents. So, we sat in the living room, and I noticed that Nick seemed content with himself. Then, he handed me a little box with a beautiful gold necklace that probably cost more than my entire wardrobe. i was confused and a bit shocked. I asked Nick where he got the money for it. But he just shook his head and smiled. \u201cNo,\u201d I said. \u201cTell me. We can return it,so you don\u2019t have to worry about paying it back.\u201d I said that because I wanted him to know I appreciated the gesture, but I didn\u2019t want us to worry about paying back some excessive amount. It wasn\u2019t necessary and not worth the stress. \u201cI\u2019ll tell you everything,\u201d Nick said. \u201cBut I need you to listen and understand.\u201d I sat back and listened to a story that turned my world upside down. Nick had an account left to him by his parents, which had made him a millionaire after all these years. We have been married for eight years, and during this time, Nick was living a double life, pretending to work from home. Meanwhile, the truth was that I went to work every day, sometimes working double shifts \u2014 which caused me to miss out on Ben\u2019s football games \u2014 while Nick had been lying to me. Instead of working away in his home office like he had made me believe, Nick was enjoying hobbies, meeting friends, and playing games on the Xbox I bought for Ben. But it didn\u2019t even stop there. To make matters worse, Nick had always insisted that we sign a prenup, but he told me that it was because he valued me and my profession and wanted me to know that I would be protected, no matter what. But the truth was, the prenup was for safeguarding his money. Now, Nick says, \u201cYou can resign, Lisa. We can live on the interest I\u2019ve accumulated all these years. You don\u2019t have to be the absent mother at Ben\u2019s games.\u201d I was bewildered. I wasn\u2019t an \u201cabsent mother\u201d to Ben. I had made it for all the important events. It was only when I was working my double shifts that I missed out on the football games. Here was Nick, the silent millionaire, making me feel guilty about providing for our family. At that point, I was furious. I sat there, watching Ben play the new game we had bought him for Christmas, and I thought about all the times Nick claimed that he couldn\u2019t afford things for our home or buy me a birthday or anniversary present. I thought about all the times he said he was too tired to help with the household chores or pick up our son because he was too busy \u201cworking.\u201d To be honest, I thought that Nick was becoming depressed with his job situation, and that was why he kept shirking his responsibilities. I got him an iPad for Christmas because he said that it would help him work from anywhere and he would be able to get to Ben quicker. Nick said that he wanted it really badly, but he just couldn\u2019t afford to buy it. t\u2019s been a few days, and I\u2019m at work between patients and feel like I have been living a lie. I told Nick that I needed some time to think about everything. I am torn and don\u2019t know what to do about it. Nick has had all this money sitting around, waiting for him to use it. While I\u2019ve been working my butt off just to make sure that we have everything we could possibly want. I\u2019ve been wearing the gold necklace as a reminder that I must decide what to do.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Lisa is a doctor, and her husband, Nick, is a freelance designer, which makes her the primary breadwinner.&hellip;","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1300,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[7],"class_list":{"0":"post-1299","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-uncategorized","8":"cs-entry"},"authors":[{"term_id":7,"user_id":1,"is_guest":0,"slug":"admin","display_name":"Arya Roberts","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/q6.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/q6.jpg"},"author_category":"","first_name":"","last_name":"","user_url":"https:\/\/americapwd.com","job_title":"","description":""}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1299","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1299"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1299\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1301,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1299\/revisions\/1301"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1300"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1299"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1299"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1299"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/americapwd.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fppma_author&post=1299"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}